The stone truth about love

During the weekend i found and realized that women must stop buying the hype that Nollywood,Hollywood and mexican telenovelas sell them about love and romance.
The sane women,have found themselves spending money unnecessarily to get the next copy of the sequel in the series,even as they tally all those legions of women who ,day in day out search for their next love opium via movies or telenovelas.

All the fairytale whether5 set in print or Polaroid,share one thing in common:The prominence that give to the words ' i love you' and to the drama that their announcements herald,as soon as these words are uttered nirvana and heaven are attained instantly.Today,many men have cottoned the wondrous power of those  three words,some guys like to use them with impunity on any women who tickle their fancy.What they forget is that in real life,as opposed to movies,there must be some method to the madness of love
On my POV(point of view),there is nothing like a instant love or love-at-no-sight or at-first-sight.Is propaganda created to sustain movie and music industry,all of us have been duped into believing that instant love exists and we have to do is wait to be stung by the love bug.Yes,there can be intense liking at first sight or a drop of the liking as with online dating but never can there be full blown love at first.Fancying the curvature of a girl at fight sight or drooling over a man's baritone on first hearing is not love at first sight maybe lust,we tend to confuse one with the other,often with major consequences the simple facts is that real love is like a seed that must be allowed to grow  until is either mature or dies.

Some men see these words as the magic key that unlocks hearts and bodies so they can use with relish.the most unfortunate bit is that millions of women will throw away their common sense,their wallets and their panties all at the sound of ' i love you'.
In my close friend Anita view is that love needs 90 days gestation period,at least with full disclosure and openness for it to translate into anything meaningful and she does not understand why women (including herself)believe that a man can fall in love with them on a day without even discovering how they look with artificial hair,make up layers and how they fall for a man without gauging his generosity meter,his wallet elasticity and how many female heart he has smashed.How does one fall in love without conducting a vetting audit of either party's love history.The most annoying thing about these words love is that thet mean different thing to different people,some men usually mean what they say,however the many other like to use them to resolve difficult conflicts to quiet emotional demands.
Men know that women are hopelessly romantic and all it takes to unlock their  emotional safes is in the i-love-you combination.But men need to realize that once those words are out your mouth then they expect a lot follow.For many women,'i love you' means that you are ready to commit your time,your resource and even your life with them.
If a man has no intention of committing any of the above to them,then he must not use those words without any tangible action then he is just using you and not loving you.And caution to all parties who say 'i love you' while under the influence or while in the middle of certain activities that have been known to cause temporary loss of sanity and logical thinking
So for love to be credible,it  must be confessed in a sober space.The sooner we stop believing the love gospel according to soppy novels and mushy movies,the better for all of us.Love is not like instant coffee,its  more like a slow baking cake that could either rise o fall from much heart or from being in the wrong oven