PATRICKATION: FOR WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

PATRICKATION: FOR WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!: Of age, maturity and relationships I saw a random quote the other day on a friend’s Facebook status that w...

FOR WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Of age, maturity and relationships

I saw a random quote the other day on a friend’s Facebook status that went something like: “Little girls fall for looks and swag. Basic girls fall for the money. Grown up girls fall for stability and security.”  I actually thought about it, and it did make a lot of sense to me.

As a young lady born and bred in Nairobi and in her “early” late 20’s I can attest to the above being true. Through my experiences I can freely tell you that I have studied men and their behaviors for quite some time.  I started dating seriously when I was nineteen. I have dated men my age, men slightly older than me, men quite older than me, rich men, average men, smart men, hardworking men, lazy men and real hustlers. Come to think of it though, I’ve only seriously dated four men so feel free to distribute the aforementioned men’s traits among the four men I’ve dated.
Because of my four serious experiences I can easily tell you that I noticed that men mature with age while women (I’m speaking for myself and my experiences) grow wiser with age. And yes, age is always the determining factor as it has a lot to do with everything… especially the way people reason.
I have seen –and still see- girls throw themselves at men who they consider hot and full of swag and in turn these cute men end up treating them badly because according to them they are the “lookers” and the girl is the one who went fishing. Such men will look at things like; you brought yourself and forced things hence all the work should be upon you.    Those who fall for swag and looks end up miserable as looks and swag is all that will feature in the relationship. Such men will never put any effort to the relationship so in the end, apart from being miserable you end up with just looks and swag  which can neither feed nor clothe you plus you get to be treated like you don’t really matter.
Throwing yourself at a guy is never the best thing to do. Throwing yourself at a guy who isn’t into you and to make things worse, you are doing it for the purposes of looks and swag will put you in one endless roller coaster ride that will constantly leave you in a dark place like a little girl who can’t fend for herself in life.
Women who are only money minded also end up in the dumps as instead of a blissful, healthy relationship, they find themselves in a place where they constantly have to be dependent on somebody else to the point that it affects every other aspect of their lives which makes moving on in life for them pretty difficult. It all starts well until you realize that you are the one suffering. Since you are in it for the money, you sort of stop thinking about how you get treated. You are never sure of where Mr. Money bags is. You are always doubtful as you know there are other women out there who are just like you who will fall for your man the same way you did because of the money.  You are always wondering who he is with and what he’s up to. All those business trips he takes, who he travels with, who he meets up with? What he does with his money, how many young girls he has tried to impress by buying them cars and taking them to expensive exotic trips… Life just passes you by because you never took the time to learn how to provide for yourself because you always knew that Mr. Money bags will always take care of you and your needs and you got comfortable. But you will never be at peace in your relationship as everything about you becomes just Basic!

Women in the last category (those who look for stability and security) know what they want, how they want it and when they want it. They plan, they work, and they have been there and have done that and therefore are settled in their minds. They don’t just jump into things without thinking them through. They have gone through the phases of falling for the cute, broke guy, to the ugly guy with tons of cash to the average looking guy with an average wallet.
For taking time to understand life and its processes you get rewarded with some peace of mind. You get rewarded with a bearable life in which you have a say in whatever it is that concerns you. You have a say in how you control your finances, you have a say in how you do everything in your house and you have a say in your relationship and best of all in your life. When you are stable in your own life you will think of others and even assist in helping to build them to become better people. You are a grown up!
So, do I think settling down with a woman who looks for a stable, secure life, knows how things work, knows how relationships work is the ideal thing to do. I sure do think so. Is the subject of men and maturity, women and wisdom valid? I give you a resounding YES!
So, as a woman what do you think? and where do you fall? Are you a Little girl, a Basic girl, or a Grown up girl?

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WHAT IS MAN ENOUGH?

How much of a man one feels it should have nothing to do with the amount with the amount of money that he has,it should come from deeper within himself.
In this extrema materialistic world,both men and women are in danger of forgetting the real meaning of being man enough.there is danger of 'man enough'being changed to 'rich enough' that would be sad because the number of rich men is rather negligible-we would have few real men.Some women will lose respect for a man as soon as he becomes skint,but that only means the respect was bubble-gum and conditional.

You are the man you think you are,many men understandably so,tend to quantify their manhood according to their bank accounts.The reckon they are if the bank account is treading close to the zero mark,so does their mental manhood.A man is allowed to feel temporarily down if he is unable to be the bread-winner,but it would be unforgivable for him to think himself less of a man.A man,however is not allowed to feel sorry for himself there are four thing less attractive than a man feeling woie for himself.

If a man fails at a major project or loses his job,he is forgiven for being angry and sad but he cannot be forgiven for measuring his manhood against the negatives.Mourning is off the card for men-their is nothing manly about it and the energy could be channeled into another project.This is for men who feel sorry for themselves and complains that women do not like them because they are not rich;you are less a man because you believe you are,not because a woman makes you feel like a lesser a man.Essentially,you are the only one who can allow a women to being you down ,you might be broke,but you still have a functioning body and brain especially in this of trouble:it is what you a man or not depending on whether you value yourself or not.

Finally,if you only think of yourself as man enough you are rolling in mullah,then you have huge self-esteem issues.You need to work an yourself before trying to get rich.Riches comes and go,being man enough should be permanent state,with or without money.Being man enough has nothing to do with the ability to live in leafy suburb or driving a humongous car;a real man never feels the need to prove himself,he just does the right thing like respect himself and respect his woman.Money is only complimentary to a man's character or self worth

HERBET LOM,PINK PANTHER STAR DIES

Herbert Lom, Pink Panther star, dies aged 95

Lom as he appeared in Curse of the Pink Panther, The Ladykillers, The Seventh Veil, The Human Jungle and I Have Been Here Before

Actor Herbert Lom, best known for playing Charles Dreyfus in the Pink Panther films, has died aged 95.

The Czech-born, London-based actor starred opposite Peter Sellers in several films as Inspector Clouseau's irritable boss.
Lom appeared in more than 100 films during his 60-year acting career, including such classics as The Ladykillers, Spartacus and El Cid.
His family said he died peacefully in his sleep on Thursday.
Lom also portrayed Napoleon Bonaparte on two occasions. One of them came in the 1956 screen adaptation of Tolstoy's War And Peace, also starring Audrey Hepburn and Henry Fonda.
He first appeared as police chief Dreyfus in 1964's A Shot In The Dark, a character who became increasingly mentally unstable as a result of Clouseau's incompetence as the films went on.
Lom was born Herbert Charles Angelo Kuchacevich ze Schluderpacheru in Prague in 1917, where he grew up and attended the city's university.

Lom (left) starred opposite Peter Sellers in several Pink Panther movies

He began acting on stage and screen in Czechoslovakia, before leaving for England at the start of World War II.
He trained at the Royal Academy of Dramatic Art in London before making his English language acting debut in 1940 film Mein Kampf - My Crimes.
He was offered a seven-year contract with Twentieth Century Fox and secured several lead roles in the 1940s, including Napoleon in The Young Mr Pitt.
In the 1950s he played opposite Alec Guinness and Peter Sellers in Ealing comedy The Ladykillers and opposite Robert Mitchum and Rita Hayworth in Fire Down Below.
He made a speciality of playing the sinister character in a string of low-budget horror films including a number of Hammer studio productions, playing the Phantom in their production of The Phantom of the Opera.
Those parts persuaded director Blake Edwards to give him his most famous role as Inspector Clouseau's long-suffering boss in several of the Pink Panther movies.
"It was a godsend when I was offered the part," he said of the role. "But it did become a double-edged sword as people started to associate me with Dreyfus."
Lom married Dina Schea in 1948, whom he divorced in 1971, and had a daughter with potter Brigitte Appleby.
He also wrote two novels alongside his acting career: Enter A Spy published in 1971 and Dr Guillotine in 1993.
His later acting career saw him work with director David Cronenberg in a 1983 adaptation of Stephen King novel The Dead Zone, opposite Christopher Walken.

Deaf gerbils 'hear again' after stem cell cure

Researchers hope they will be able to one day treat deafness with stem cells.

UK researchers say they have taken a huge step forward in treating deafness after stem cells were used to restore hearing in animals for the first time.

Hearing partially improved when nerves in the ear, which pass sounds into the brain, were rebuilt in gerbils - a UK study in the journal Nature reports.
Getting the same improvement in people would be a shift from being unable to hear traffic to hearing a conversation.
However, treating humans is still a distant prospect.
If you want to listen to the radio or have a chat with a friend your ear has to convert sound waves in the air into electrical signals which the brain will understand.
This happens deep inside the inner ear where vibrations move tiny hairs and this movement creates an electrical signal.
However, in about one in 10 people with profound hearing loss, nerve cells which should pick up the signal are damaged. It is like dropping the baton after the first leg of a relay race.
The aim of researchers at the University of Sheffield was to replace those baton-dropping nerve cells, called spiral ganglion neurons, with new ones.

Analysis: A hairy problem

While there is excitement at the prospect of using stem cells to restore nerves in the ear this exact technique will not help the vast, vast majority of people with hearing loss.
Most hearing problems are caused by damage to the tiny delicate hairs which convert mechanical vibrations into electricity.
This research group have also converted embryonic stem cells into the early versions of the hair cells.
However, injecting them into the ear to restore hearing will be no easy task.
The hairs cells all need to be in the exact place and pointing in exactly the right direction.
Prof Dave Moore said using stem cells to repair the hairs was "almost an impossible task" and that the far-fetched concept of growing and transplanting a replacement ear seemed more likely.

They used stem cells from a human embryo, which are capable of becoming any other type of cell in the human body from nerve to skin, muscle to kidney.

A chemical soup was added to the stem cells that converted them into cells similar to the spiral ganglion neurons. These were then delicately injected into the inner ears of 18 deaf gerbils.
Over 10 weeks the gerbils' hearing improved. On average 45% of their hearing range was restored by the end of the study.
Dr Marcelo Rivolta said: "It would mean going from being so deaf that you wouldn't be able to hear a lorry or truck in the street to the point where you would be able to hear a conversation.
"It is not a complete cure, they will not be able to hear a whisper, but they would certainly be able to maintain a conversation in a room."
About a third of the gerbils responded really well to treatment with some regaining up to 90% of their hearing, while just under a third barely responded at all.
Gerbils were used as they are able to hear a similar range of sounds to people, unlike mice which hear higher-pitched sounds.
The researchers detected the improvement in hearing by measuring brainwaves. The gerbils were also tested for only 10 weeks. If this became a treatment in humans then the effect would need to be shown over a much longer term.
There are also questions around the safety and ethics of stem cell treatments which would need to be addressed.
'Tremendously encouraging' Prof Dave Moore, the director of the Medical Research Council's Institute of Hearing Research in Nottingham, told the BBC: "It is a big moment, it really is a major development."
However, he cautioned that there will still be difficulties repeating the feat in people.
"The biggest issue is actually getting into the part of the inner ear where they'll do some good. It's extremely tiny and very difficult to get to and that will be a really formidable undertaking," he said.
Dr Ralph Holme, head of biomedical research for the charity Action on Hearing Loss, said: "The research is tremendously encouraging and gives us real hope that it will be possible to fix the actual cause of some types of hearing loss in the future.
"For the millions of people for whom hearing loss is eroding their quality of life, this can't come soon enough."
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DANGEROUS GAME WITH SEX TOY!!!!!!!!!!!

During my vacation i met with my old friend as we catch up for the long time on see,i noticed he was troubled and he was willing to share...His problem was to do with toys,something i had never thought of.....

He began by stating that early this years his wife had finally landed a long-sought promotion.But the promotion,he said was not without cost.She started spending a lot of time with some single women at the office,many of whom,according to him were wild and immoral.
His attempt to discourage her fell on deaf ears,not long into her promotion,she started going out every night neglecting him.Though they had earlier agreed to settle down and have children's,immediately after her promotion things changed.she told him that she had a right to her body and felt that it was not yet time to start a family....
Through his friends advised him to foot down as the man of the house,he opted out for dialogue and consultations.One day out of the blues,she introduced the use of sex toy into their marriage bed and although he had never used them he was very excited.At last he thought she was beginning to develop interest in sex,for a while things were great and the toys made her more interested in sexual games.He even imagined is was just a matter of time before they got a child,then out of the blue his wife withdraw from him again.She completely avoided the bedroom and argued that there was more to life than sexual satisfaction.
He noticed that his wife was spending too much time in the bathroom,When he was her happy place where she could relax,pray and write stuff in her journal.Though he found her explanation,strange he decided to not raise her and ignored the warning bells in his head.But last week he discoverde something that no man would want to find in his own home.he decided to come home unexpected with the intention of surprising his wife with a dinner at her favorite restaurant in town.

He walked into the bathroom only t her woman lost in ecstasy with with the sex toys.So engrossed was she that she never heard him walking in,that she would rather satisfy herself with toys was a bitter pill to swallow.His first reaction was to walk out on her and thier marriage but she pleaded with him and promised never to do it again.Nevertheless,he is still a troubled man,all i can say to him is,though sex toys can be used in some situation to help in the marital bed,obsession with them is not healthy.In thier case proffesional help would be the way to go.But should he feel that he cannot subject to a counselor,then for his own good he should run to the hills.No one can measure up to fantasy.............
           WHAT WOULD BE YOUR ADVICE FOR HIM?

WOMEN ARE JUST AS VISUAL AS MEN!

"We want to eye the candy",a close female friend said,it was about the forthcoming safaricom sevens at nyayo national stadium.And this made me think and get down and write this blog

Men seem to think that women don't mind their potbellies,flabby behinds and man boobs....on the contrary,women are just as visual as men,and appreciate something nice and firm to stare at.This happen as the summer Olympics come to an end,those exiciting picture and the yummy rugby players showing the players image worked for chic and host of many ladies who won't dare miss the safari sevens to eye the candy.
Men (i)include we think otherwise but women too are visual creatures and they like to ogle,leer,dissect and analyse the male body.They may not have much to the work with as has,but here are few things thet am told they look at.The undisputed attention drawer is gluteus maximus-otherwise known as "the butt",there is something so primal,sensual and sexy about looking at a compact well-constructed behind,espicially when its encased in a pair of fine jeans
Their primordial instincts fuse with the visual desire,since they consider a well-shaped behind the perfect launch for thrust and tumble that comes with pleasurable pursuit....though scientists say that a firm butt is critical for sending those vital millions of male seed out on an assigment to locate and fuse with the elusive ovum.
So they don't fancy men who have excessively skinny bums,mainly because they look like they should be fed not fed upon.They also know that those skinny bums comes with sharp pelvis bones that can cause massive injuries to soft female tissues.In the same breath,am told overabundant behinds are somehow synonymous with obesity and sub-standard performance to make the matter worse,some men even have hips(oh may)and from the rear view one cannot make the proper gender distinction,which can be very harrowing.Of course,there is little you can do as a man if nature gave you hips,but perhaps a few squats would not hurt. 
The perfect butt accessory and ogle factor number two,is the hip line.This is that line that leads from the the hip bone down to the pelvis,and that make a rather interesting "V"shape.There is something very raw,vircle and hot about a man's v-line....never knew about that and you?.And to prove this ladies and gents who don't believe what am saying would do well to watch D'Angelo's how does it feel video.This line only appears in full relief in athletic and fit guys,and it looks even better above a well-toned behind,did i just say that not i is what am told and heard and researched
Once they have inspected the man's derriere,they like to have a full frontal inspection.This is where a fine,well-shaped chest does the magic,especially when it's paired with a firm and broad back.A nice chest spells confidence and many women visualize spending hours laying their head on such a chest,sadly on this side of Sahara men have misguidedly come to believe that plump,big belly teddy bear are what they(ladies) like;we even take this further and tell ourselves that an abundant girth is an indicator of wealth,meaning that what a woman loses out in ogling pleasure is made up for the term of financial generosity.
Even the human anatomy expects will say that a chest that is concealed by layers of adipose deposits conjures images of death by suffocation,so closer you are to six pack,the better for all concerned.Though women are professed chest lover and huggers,they do like moderation,some men violate this rule and pump so much iron that they look like johnny bravo on steroids(for reference,please see the bouncer at your favorite night club).Many of these super-size blokes wear very small,tight shirts to show off thier physiques.when they are not show off,these bulky misters are knoewn to spend hours preering and posing in front of the mirrors in the gym,only women are allowed to hog the mirriors,gentlemen.And those barrol-like chests need to go.
Strange as this might seem,they also look at a man's hands,they like strong,well-maintained and most importantly,clean-hands.They understand that most of as men are not yet to embrace the whole mani-pedi business,but their mind go into fantasy land the minute the spot a man who have nice,well fingers.And there is nothing more disgusting than those overgrown pinkie nails that men nurture under misguided notion that they give men an aura of sexiness;we couldn't be more wrong.if every man paid attention to having a good butt,strong chest and groomed hand would be a happier lot.And if all men came in the same package as sportsmen that would be nirvana.Given the effort women make to give men something to ogle at daily:I think this is enough challenge......